Brothers and Sisters forgive me for asking this question but i have no choice!

[Is'haaq ibn Ahmad]

May Allah forgive me for asking such a stupid question:

I try my best to be the perfect muslim, following the example of nabiyullah sallahu alayhi wasalam.
In this case i try my very best to lower my gaze, and how tough is this task when living in a city like this (london).
So i'm a student at this college in west london, and there's a learning center or libary where students do extra study, i usually go there to catch up or to study in general. This beautiful girl who i don't know if she's muslim or not, for a while i noticed she looks at me at times, when i look back she looks away and talks to her frinds, today one of my friends told me that when i was walking out of the libary she was looking at me for a good 4 seconds, i try my best not to excite this situation, but i must not be harsh on this girl, and say "Don't give me looks" Neither would i walk up to her with the haram pick up line " U wanna go out with me" I still await to see how this situation elevates, I'd like to here from the muslim ummah how do i handle such a situation in a appropiate islamic way?

Jazakallah.

[mopat]

May Allah forgive me for asking such a stupid question:

I try my best to be the perfect muslim, following the example of nabiyullah sallahu alayhi wasalam.
In this case i try my very best to lower my gaze, and how tough is this task when living in a city like this (london).
So i'm a student at this college in west london, and there's a learning center or libary where students do extra study, i usually go there to catch up or to study in general. This beautiful girl who i don't know if she's muslim or not, for a while i noticed she looks at me at times, when i look back she looks away and talks to her frinds, today one of my friends told me that when i was walking out of the libary she was looking at me for a good 4 seconds, i try my best not to excite this situation, but i must not be harsh on this girl, and say "Don't give me looks" Neither would i walk up to her with the haram pick up line " U wanna go out with me" I still await to see how this situation elevates, I'd like to here from the muslim ummah how do i handle such a situation in a appropiate islamic way?

Jazakallah.

As-salaamu Alaikum my brother Is'haaq,

In my humble opinion, the best thing to do in such a situation, would be to remove yourself entirely from such an environment. If it would be possible to find some other area to study in, then seek it out. As, muslims we should not even go NEAR zina, let alone actually commit any form of zina. Approaching the girl would provide absolutely no benefit, and since you already state that you are attracted to her, it would lead to potentially greater temptation.

Allah (SWT) knows best.

[bugmenot]

Put your finger on fire and you'll forget her.

On a more serious tone, ignore the girl and if you can't don't go to such public spaces. You yourself know what feelings it created in you so you should not entertain this 'game' by any means.

May Allah make it easy on us.

Wassalam.

[amr123]

This lecture helped me a lot with such matters. May Allah protect us. Ameen.

Courage To Control The Lustful Soul - Sheikh Sulaiman Moola

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RYAfv4Su5fM

[Auzer]

May Allah forgive me for asking such a stupid question:

I try my best to be the perfect muslim, following the example of nabiyullah sallahu alayhi wasalam.
In this case i try my very best to lower my gaze, and how tough is this task when living in a city like this (london).
So i'm a student at this college in west london, and there's a learning center or libary where students do extra study, i usually go there to catch up or to study in general. This beautiful girl who i don't know if she's muslim or not, for a while i noticed she looks at me at times, when i look back she looks away and talks to her frinds, today one of my friends told me that when i was walking out of the libary she was looking at me for a good 4 seconds, i try my best not to excite this situation, but i must not be harsh on this girl, and say "Don't give me looks" Neither would i walk up to her with the haram pick up line " U wanna go out with me" I still await to see how this situation elevates, I'd like to here from the muslim ummah how do i handle such a situation in a appropiate islamic way?

Jazakallah.

Go and try to be frank with her..Talk with her and see if you guys can patch up..Spend some time together and then marry ..If She's a Muslim..its good. If not..try and what if she converts? Allah will grant you much more reward. As Prophet (SAW) said..Your actions depend upon your intentions..your intention is NOT Satanic..Allah will understand this

[abdulwahhab]

Go and try to be frank with her..Talk with her and see if you guys can patch up..Spend some time together and then marry ..If She's a Muslim..its good. If not..try and what if she converts? Allah will grant you much more reward. As Prophet (SAW) said..Your actions depend upon your intentions..your intention is NOT Satanic..Allah will understand this

His intentions may not be satanic but your advice sure is!

It is haraam to "patch up...Spend some time together". Premarital relationships with ghayr mahram women are completely haraam.

Also, "Your actions depend upon your intentions..your intention is NOT Satanic" is an extremely faulty understanding of the hadeeth. The actions have to be permissible actions. Haraam actions cannot be justified by good intentions.

[samy.3660]

Go and try to be frank with her..Talk with her and see if you guys can patch up..Spend some time together and then marry ..If She's a Muslim..its good. If not..try and what if she converts? Allah will grant you much more reward. As Prophet (SAW) said..Your actions depend upon your intentions..your intention is NOT Satanic..Allah will understand this

Opps you are giving satanless answer, really.
He is with us all the time, satan I mean, and he try to confuse us, and lead us to sin, even though our inten ption looks pure, he wont leave us in this matter.
Brother ishaaq, I have been there done that, and that too in a library, and the girl in a hijab did look at me too. But thats a long story...
Stay away, clear.

Assalamu Alaikum

[janaveronikazahra]

salam alikum,
I think he speaks about spending time in public places in discussion withing group of more people.
w alikum assalam

[sudoku]

The story of Barsisa the monk comes in mind.

Perhaps br amr123 can post it,

[Abu_Tamim]

May Allah forgive me for asking such a stupid question:

I try my best to be the perfect muslim, following the example of nabiyullah sallahu alayhi wasalam.
In this case i try my very best to lower my gaze, and how tough is this task when living in a city like this (london).
So i'm a student at this college in west london, and there's a learning center or libary where students do extra study, i usually go there to catch up or to study in general. This beautiful girl who i don't know if she's muslim or not, for a while i noticed she looks at me at times, when i look back she looks away and talks to her frinds, today one of my friends told me that when i was walking out of the libary she was looking at me for a good 4 seconds, i try my best not to excite this situation, but i must not be harsh on this girl, and say "Don't give me looks" Neither would i walk up to her with the haram pick up line " U wanna go out with me" I still await to see how this situation elevates, I'd like to here from the muslim ummah how do i handle such a situation in a appropiate islamic way?

Jazakallah.