aslamalikum wa rahmatullah hei wa baraktu
firstly all thanks and gratitudes to the members who run this website and may allah accept your worship and your guidance to troubled muslims.
i am a married male and i am trying my best to perform the duties of islam ie namaz fasting etc. however i have 1 big problem which has gotten worse since the day i reached puberty. i want to know what is the best way to perform ghusl quickly so i dont get late for work or for general life. as a normal male i get wet dreams and i have sexual relations with my wife. i know that when sperm is released either through nocturnal emission (wet dream) or sexual intercourse with my wife i have to take a bath (ghusl janaba).
this is the problem for me. i will spend a great time in the bathroom to clean myself to ensure proper ghsul is done. sometimes i may repeat my ghusl to be sure it is done properly. this is my understanding of ghusl but please correct me if i am wrong.
firstly after discharge of semen, i urinate as required by islamic law to get the remainingg semen out.
i then use toilet paper to completely dry myself AND THIS IS MY BIG PROBLEM. THIS IS WHERE IT CAN TAKE HOURS (I HAVE BEEN IN FOR 4 HOURS AT A TIME) TO PROPERLY CLEAN THE URINE. AS SOON AS I MOVE THE URINE COMES BACK BUT IT IS LESS THAN A DROP HOWEVER IT IS STILL THERE AS IT LEAVES A MARK ON THE TOPILET PAPER. I KEEP DOING THIS AND WASTE A LOT OF TIME AS WELL AS LOTS OF TOILET PAPER. I TRIED ALL THE METHODS OF ISTIBRA BUT THE URINE IS STILL THERE AND IS LESS THAN A DROP BUT STILL MAKES THE TISSUE PAPER WET. I AM GOING OUT OF MY MIND HERE AND SOMETIMES HAVE ARGUEMNTS TO THE LENGTH OF TIME I SPEND IN THE BATHROOM AND I REALLY NEED HELP.
PLEASE ISLAMIC SCHOLARS AND LEARNED BROTHERS HELP ME HERE. DO I HAVE TO DO ISTNIJA BEFORE GHUSL? REMEMEMBER I ONLY WANT TO BECOME PURE TO READ NAMAZ ANJD STOP WASTING TIME, THE SUNNAH ACTS CAN COME IN LATER WHEN I GET MORE CONFIDENT I JUST NEED TO DO THE REQUIRD ACTS THAT WILL MAKE ME PURE. CAN I JUST URINATE AND CAN THE URINE STILL BE THERE AS IN DOES IT HAVE TO BE COMPLETETLY 100% DRIED UP. REASON WHY IM SAYING THIS IS BECASUE THE REQUIREMENT OF NORMAL ISTANJA IS THAT THE URINE HAS TO BE 100% COMPLETELY DRIED OR AM I WRONG FOR NAMAZ?
ALSO WHEN I DO WUDHU BEFORE GHUSL WHICH AGAIN I THINK IS NOT A FARZ, IT TAKES TIME AS IF I BREAK WIND, IF I AM BLEEDING OR IF I FEEL URINE DROPS COMING OUT THEN I DRY MYSELF AND GO BACK TO TRYING RID MYSELF OF REMAINING URINE IN MY URETHRA?
PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME HERE. I HAVE MISSED PRAYERS, SPEND WEEKS COMING BACK EVERYDAY FROM WORK TO HAVE A GHUSL AND CANT GET IT RIGHT.
SO MY MAIN POINTS IS THAT DO I HAVE TO 100% DRY MY URETHRA BEFORE COMMENCING FOR WIDHU AND WILL THE REMANING URINE DROPS BREAK MY ISTINJA CAUSING ME TO START AGAIN FOR INSTINJA?
THEN WHEN I AM DOING WUDHU, WILL ACTS SUCH AS BREAKJING WIND, BLEEDING FROM A WOUND, URINE DROPS BREAK MY WUDHU AS I HAVE DONE WUDHU MORE THAN TEN TIMES TO ACHIEVE PERFECTION?
THEN WHEN I HAVE A BATH, DO I HAVE TO POUR WATER FROM RIGHT HAND SIDE SHOULDER THEN THE LEFT HAND SIDE SHOULDER THEN ALL OVER THE HEAD OR CAN I JUST POUR IT IN ANY ORDER?
DO I HAVE TO POUR IT 3 TIMES OR WILL 1 BE ENOUGH?
1 LAST POINT, I WILL OBSERVE HAYA AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE HERE. WHERE IN THE POINT OF GHUSL DO YOU GET NAKED AND WHEN DO YOU COVER BACK UP?
MY MAIN POINT IS THAT CAN I JUST URNINATE AFTER SEMEN DISHARGE, COMPELETE THE 3 FARDHS I THINK THEY ARE AND GO TO WORK.
JAZAAAK ALLAH HAIR