i am now confident as what to do. i will see my local imaam but i am more confident than ever that what i have been doing was too much. just 1 last question. i take it breaking wind or bleeding before ghsul ie when i am doing the 3 farz like gargling putting water up my nose, will not break my ghsul and i should carry on and hence if i bleed or break wind during ghusl this too will not affect ghusl?
when you said "That way all the semen will leave your body and you can then perform ghusl when you are sure nothing else will come out."
only thing that can come out will be a bit of urine. as said that will not affect my ghusl?
i just wanted to add that the reason why i have been like this is becasue uring breaks istanja so i wanted to be perfect that no more urine is seen which lead to bad wiswases. breaking wind and bleeding breaks wudhu which is required as a sunnah before ghsul. thats why it has taken me time to do ghsul. this is what has confused all these years. so therefore if urine and breaking wind and bleeding before during after ghusl does not affect ghusl? i hope i am right here? thats the main question ive realy wanted to ask.
thank you for your help. much apreciated