A question on sila rehmi

[Seekeress@0]

Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatULLAHI wa barakatuHU wa maghfiratuHU dear all,
I have got a question: If one or more of your family members, say your paternal aunt and/or uncle has continuously slandered against you and your parents for years, say for 18-20 years or even more than that, they have even tried to kick you out of your home and falsely swore on the Holy Quran against you, and if after having done all of this, one day the paternal aunt calls you up and asks you to meet her just one time, and she cries on phone, is it fardh upon you to go meet her? Cant you just talk to her on phone to make her feel happy because you know she loves you and has looked after you despite all the grudges that she bore against you? Is it "ok" to choose not to go meet her in person, if meeting her will only make you remember all those bad things that she did? All i want to ask you all is this, one is not being sinful if one does not meet their relatives in person, right?

JazakumULLAH khair,
Wassalam ma'al-ikram

[byellow200]

Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatULLAHI wa barakatuHU wa maghfiratuHU dear all,
I have got a question: If one or more of your family members, say your paternal aunt and/or uncle has continuously slandered against you and your parents for years, say for 18-20 years or even more than that, they have even tried to kick you out of your home and falsely swore on the Holy Quran against you, and if after having done all of this, one day the paternal aunt calls you up and asks you to meet her just one time, and she cries on phone, is it fardh upon you to go meet her? Cant you just talk to her on phone to make her feel happy because you know she loves you and has looked after you despite all the grudges that she bore against you? Is it "ok" to choose not to go meet her in person, if meeting her will only make you remember all those bad things that she did? All i want to ask you all is this, one is not being sinful if one does not meet their relatives in person, right?

JazakumULLAH khair,
Wassalam ma'al-ikram

Something like this happened to my cousin sister when she got married. Her aunts called her over to spend a night. They put some black magic in her food and she was arguing with her husbund for a few days. Suspicion is haram in Islam but be careful, do not go alone but go with parents and have seven ajwa dates in the morning or something.

[rushqah]

I had this on both sides of my family my mom side nd dad side they were like that with me nd brothers nd sisters they were so nasty we were like the black sheep in the family nd my dad never wanted us 2 go 2 them but mom always told my dad its family let them go but after a while mom also didn't send us anymore cause of the way they treated us bt after a few years they came 2 us don't no if they felt guilty but we just stayed away but now its much better with the family hope every thing works out fine 4 u hay inshallah

[ahmetbaba]

Sila rehmi is a must for your immediate family first, which is your parents, siblings, children and spouse. Your aunts and uncles come after.