From Lovers to Friends for Allah

[Khurram.]

Assalamoaliekum brothers and sisters.
I am eighteen years old and Ive experienced the girlfriend boyfriend relationship that many of us are going through. It had been 6 months since I met this girl and both of us started dating. We did not indulge in any sort of higher evil, we would just enjoy eachothers company,long phone calls, texts (in which we expressed our feelings thoroughly, cuz apparently we were in love. I recently started to study more about my beautiful religion and found out that whatever we were doing was wrong so I told her and asked her that if we could become just friends from lovers. She, by the fear of the Almighty agreed .
Now we talk over texts, share some daily events such as studies etc and its not like we talk too much either. We also share some good knowledge to strengthen eachothers faith. I have no wrong intentions regarding her or any other girl and InshAllah I will not have another girlfriend. But I think she still feels for me and might want to marry me. (I m not sure about that ). And yes we dont express our feelings etc too anymore and its like that sort of a relationship ( The lover sort ) has ended.

I want to be a perfect muslim, and so I want to know whether this type of a friendship is valid or not?
I also want to know whether I can keep in touch with my female friends that I have through texts or facebook? ( even though I dont waste much of my time doing so but you know how a life of muslim teen is ). I pray 5 times a day and ask Allah for guidance in every matter.

It would be really appreciated if some KNOWLEDGABLE person enlightens me more regarding my situation.
Jiz'ak Allah Khair

[ahmad12]

You will need to break off pretty much all communication with her (especially since she may still like you). In Islam, intermingling of the sexes is forbidden and you cannot speak with her for other than certain reasons. Keeping in contact with her in this way is wrong. Keep up the good work (with regards to learning and implementing the deen) bro

[aliyaa]

why dont u do nikah with her?

[Shuayb Abdul-Khaaliq]

Assalamoaliekum brothers and sisters.

brother. May Allah reward you for trying to implement the deen into your life and may He keep you steadfast and make it easy for you. Ameen.

I have really short answers for you as this sort of questions are often asked on this forum (in different words) so I'm out of long answers for now.

so I want to know whether this type of a friendship is valid or not?

It is not valid.

I also want to know whether I can keep in touch with my female friends that I have through texts or facebook?

No, you cannot. Not at all. There is no such thing as "friends" of the opposite gender in Islam.

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You need to disappear out of all these females' lives to the point where they start to wonder if you're still alive or not (no joke). Sure, it may be inconvenient and not line up with your current views, but Insha'Allah it will get easier.

"O you who have believed, enter into Islam completely [and perfectly] and do not follow the footsteps of Satan. Indeed, he is to you a clear enemy." Quran 2:208

While I'm not a scholar, I do like to use the above quoted ayat in some of these instances. Allah swt tells us to enter into Islam completely. Not 99%, but 100%. That means submitting to Allah swt's commands completely, regardless of your own desires. So, it doesn't matter if you think it's OK to have female friends as long as you're "only friends" and not "lovers", etc. Islam forbids any sort of 'friendships' between members of the opposite sex, so that's that. It is not a matter of choice. It becomes easier once you completely submit to Allah. Of course you have to seek help from Allah swt, as nothing can happen without His will.

I pray 5 times a day and ask Allah for guidance in every matter.

, this is key. Keep asking Allah for guidance and please remember me and all of the ummah in your duas as well.

It would be really appreciated if some KNOWLEDGABLE person enlightens me more regarding my situation.

I'm afraid I don't meet the standard of being "knowledgeable", but the above have been my 2 cents, Insha'Allah according the Shariah.

Allah knows best.

[Abu Hamza Deccani]

brother, may Allah make it easy for you. Just keep away from her and all Non-Mahram females. It is haram to communicate with them in any form with out a shariah valid excuse or need. Just keep away for a few weeks and you will inshAllah just forget them.

[Momin1]

One of the difficult things in this world now has become is to save ur gaze from non mahram females