Wife saddened that I became a Muslim

**Bongo77** · 23-05-2012, 03:47 PM

Thanks brother, sounds like the safest way to go about this. Peace to you, Dan

**janaveronikazahra** · 23-05-2012, 05:01 PM

Originally Posted by Revert2001

Most natural born muslims do not have a clue what reverts go thru when they accept Islam. They think since you have rejected jahillyyah and taken Islam as your religion. Your world will now be peaceful and tranquil.

Little do they know that for most reverts. They have just bought a 1st class ticket on a whirlwind of family problems, broken friendships, possible divorce, and shunning by some co-workers.

In my rough estimation; I would venture to say that about 50% of the reverts I know, both brothers and sisters, ended up divorced after they accepted Islam. I am talking about marriages where neither were muslim; but one of the spouse's reverted.

Which brings up a point for the ummah. New reverts are most vulnerable right after they revert. And that's the time where they need the most help and support.

Too many times I have seen a new shahada at the mosque given a lot of pats on the back and congratulations. Then the muslim people walk away and go back to hanging around with their little clique of friends. And the new revert is left standing alone to fiend for themselves and sort out what this religion is all about.

true, and even someone stated this is privillege to have this challenge and find remedy, it is sometimes difficult like to walk alone accross unknown land, it is good that we can share here in forum, and allah helps us

**Bongo77** · 23-05-2012, 07:17 PM

I agree Sister, this forum has been very comforting and helpful for me. everyone has been insightful and very caring!

peace to you

**Bongo77** · 23-05-2012, 07:21 PM

I agree with you Brother, I'm thankful to Allah t'Allah for the concern people have shown me on this forum. I don't think I have really heard from anyone at the masjid where I took my shahada, I am kind of shy though so it's a big part my fault though.
I found another masjid that is closer to me so I may go there Friday or the other one inshallah

**Revert2001** · 23-05-2012, 07:58 PM

Originally Posted by Bongo77

I agree with you Brother, I'm thankful to Allah t'Allah for the concern people have shown me on this forum. I don't think I have really heard from anyone at the masjid where I took my shahada, I am kind of shy though so it's a big part my fault though.
I found another masjid that is closer to me so I may go there Friday or the other one inshallah

Brother, it has been my experience that most muslims are naturally shy; especially at the Masjid.

So you will have to come out of your shell and reach out to them. Believe me they are aware of your presence and most likely curious about you. So take the initiative and offer salams and a hand shake with a smile.

You will see a world of difference in their demeanor towards you.

**Maripat** · 24-05-2012, 04:22 AM

Originally Posted by Revert2001

Most natural born muslims do not have a clue what reverts go thru when they accept Islam. They think since you have rejected jahillyyah and taken Islam as your religion. Your world will now be peaceful and tranquil.

Little do they know that for most reverts. They have just bought a 1st class ticket on a whirlwind of family problems, broken friendships, possible divorce, and shunning by some co-workers.

In my rough estimation; I would venture to say that about 50% of the reverts I know, both brothers and sisters, ended up divorced after they accepted Islam. I am talking about marriages where neither were muslim; but one of the spouse's reverted.

Which brings up a point for the ummah. New reverts are most vulnerable right after they revert. And that's the time where they need the most help and support.

Too many times I have seen a new shahada at the mosque given a lot of pats on the back and congratulations. Then the muslim people walk away and go back to hanging around with their little clique of friends. And the new revert is left standing alone to fiend for themselves and sort out what this religion is all about.

**Maripat** · 25-05-2012, 02:19 PM

Originally Posted by Nomadic

Bismillah

Hence most of my friend till now are still non muslim.

Make an intention that you shall take every single one of them to Jannah with you.

**Maripat** · 29-05-2012, 09:22 AM

Originally Posted by Nomadic

They don't engage in relegious disscussion! One of them is buddhist, aithist, hindu and couldn't care less type. The only one ever did is a catholique christian and is generally suspicious of all thing religious or too much media attention!! I am bit like that!

Even then a casual dropping of suggestion will accomplish wonders - it will set the agenda and you shall be the one who has defined lines. I can not tell you how relieving it is when you do not have to conform to other people's ideas and expectations. It is real liberation. It is really strange that by being slaves of Allah (SWT) we kick away the slavery of his servants.

Supplicate for me to get into the clean by having done my Dawah Audit - a lot remains to be done.