Your post on 90 doesn't make sense. As other brother have said science of tassawuf can't be learnt but experienced. It is not some book and syllabus one goes through. It sciences applied differently by the Spiritual master for their students. Also as I have said one can't just take bayah without first knowing if the shaikh demeaner and your capability is on the same page.
Hence before one becomes mureed they are tasted. Your approach seems not to fit in with this. I know one shaikh who sat outside the religious circle for 6 months before he was admitted. This is done to test his sincerety and ability to forberance.
One need to surrounder ones ego!! Tasswuf is not in need of members but believers are in need of tassawuf as an aid to get close to the Most sublime. The shaikh is not in need of murred or students but seeker is in need of a good Shaikh. So oners is on the seeker to seek out a shaikh and not the other way round. Without legwork and constant prayer for means of guidance, one can't really start his search.
The notion of instant gratification is enthesis to tassawuf which is found amoung the most lamadhabist. Tassawuf is not just about taking bayah but being able to test oneself and not the others. The latter implies one knows when in reality is devoid of humility and lack of understanding, reallsation and in essence knowledge of self!
If one can't do this - there is no suluk and no tassawuf.