Need help with making my love for a woman halal

[fattaharif]

As-Salam Alaikum. I am about to start my second year at university here in the United States. I met a Muslim girl in my first year who could be the woman I have been hoping to meet, Insha Allah. We seem to be at about the same level of faith. Sadly, I don't know enough about her to actually follow through with such assumptions. I know dating is not allowed in Islam unless under the presence of mahrams or her walis, but the university we attend is out of state for me. It is in-state for her. What should I do? I don't want to do anything haram but I would like to get to know her, or at least about her and vice versa. I was thinking of talking to her whenever we run into each other and just spend time as friends (most preferably in the presence of other friends so it is not exactly dating and helps us control ourselves more). Would it be okay for me to pull pranks on her once in a while, just to get her attention? I would work hard for it not to be anything excessive or showy, Insha Allah.

The main reason for getting to know her is she barely knows me as well and I'm not sure she even likes me as a friend let alone considers me to make a good spouse one day. How can I get to know her, Insha Allah even though I don't have the chance to meet with her parents? I will Insha Allah ask my mentors as well for more guidance on a personal level.

Are there any duas I could make to Allah (SWT)? I made a dua before I started at the university to meet the girl of my dreams one day, someone at similar level of faith to me and is beautiful and sociable. This girl seems to be the one because she is very friendly, always positive, beautiful, religious and very dedicated to community service. Is it possible this is too good to be perfect? Could it be Satan's trick, or is this possibly the girl I've been praying for?

Sorry for the long post!

[Umrah]

Asalamualaikum bro,

I'd suggest you don't pull pranks on her, it might ruin her first impression of you. Besides, you don't know her well enough yet to know if she appreciates that kind of humour
If I were you I would simply approach her and ask her for her wali's number. That would be a halal way of telling someone that you wanna get to know them.

[fattaharif]

Asalamualaikum bro,

I'd suggest you don't pull pranks on her, it might ruin her first impression of you. Besides, you don't know her well enough yet to know if she appreciates that kind of humour
If I were you I would simply approach her and ask her for her wali's number. That would be a halal way of telling someone that you wanna get to know them.

But wouldn't it be too early? I mean, we're only about to go into our second year of university and we both have dreams of becoming physicians Insha Allah. Wouldn't it be better to at least finish my undergraduate studies before asking for her wali's number? Also, how could I relay my feelings towards my parents? I feel like they could give me the best advice. I mentioned it once and they didn't say "no" but they said to focus on my studies for now because she won't like me if I don't do well in school, which makes sense.

[Servant.of.Allah]

But wouldn't it be too early? I mean, we're only about to go into our second year of university and we both have dreams of becoming physicians Insha Allah. Wouldn't it be better to at least finish my undergraduate studies before asking for her wali's number?

Before that if someone approaches her wali?

Also, how could I relay my feelings towards my parents? I feel like they could give me the best advice. I mentioned it once and they didn't say "no" but they said to focus on my studies for now because she won't like me if I don't do well in school, which makes sense.

try to get married now. if you dont get married you might lose focus.
Again make Dua to Allah, make isthikara and see.

[fattaharif]

But wouldn't it be too early? I mean, we're only about to go into our second year of university and we both have dreams of becoming physicians Insha Allah. Wouldn't it be better to at least finish my undergraduate studies before asking for her wali's number?

Before that if someone approaches her wali?

Also, how could I relay my feelings towards my parents? I feel like they could give me the best advice. I mentioned it once and they didn't say "no" but they said to focus on my studies for now because she won't like me if I don't do well in school, which makes sense.

try to get married now. if you dont get married you might lose focus.
Again make Dua to Allah, make isthikara and see.

What kind of dua should I make? When should I make it? Shouldn't I first obtain permission from my parents?

[Servant.of.Allah]

What kind of dua should I make? When should I make it? Shouldn't I first obtain permission from my parents?

See marriage is not just you marry a pious girl. A really pious girl will require something from you.
If you want to marry a niqabi and want to be clean shaved, it might not help you.

We need to live with the deficiencies, this is the thumb rule in the marriage.

Make dua to Allah - if this is good for your deen, to guide towards it.
Allah is available 24 * 7, you can ask him anytime
Yes, please discuss with some other brothers too.

I've crossed your age and know where you are standing right now. think 1000 times and decide, this is not a small thing.
it will decide the major portion of your life

[Aamirahm]

Isthikhara is when you ask Allah to guide and help you in making the right decisions in life. That way, you won't have any regrets inshallah.

Pray two rakah nafil salah
And then read the dua for istikhara
Go to sleep with wudhu facing the qibla.
Upon waking up, do the task on which your heart seems firm.
If one doesnt seem to reach a solution on the first day , keep doing it for 7 consecutive days. By then youll have your answer by the will of allah .

http://www.inter-islam.org/Actions/P...f%20Istikharaa

That dua i mentioned can be found on that link.

[Aamirahm]

Istikhara is when we ask Allah to guide and help us make decisions in life correctly. That way, we wont have any regrets later on.

Pray 2 rakah nafil salah
Read the dua for istikhara http://www.inter-islam.org/Actions/P...f%20Istikharaa

Sleep with wudhu, facing the qibla if possible.
When you wake up, do that task on which the heart is firm.

If one cant figure out what's right in the first trial,
Do it for 7 consecutive days.
By then, youll have your answer .

[Aamirahm]

Pray salatul isthikhara.

And LOL at the 'pull pranks proposition'.

[fattaharif]

Pray salatul isthikhara.

And LOL at the 'pull pranks proposition'.

What is salatul isthikhara? Everyone keeps mentioning it but no one bothers to tell me what it is. What do I have to do?