marraige prob...

[maya_123]

Thanku so much....but dis is jst marriage duaa. Is thr such any duaa for marriage wid a specific person??

[sudoku]

Sister maya, du'aa is a simply a weapon, and you have to know how to wield that weapon if you want it to work.

What I mean by this is that making du'aa has its benefits, but if we are not going to follow what Allah commands, then how can we expect Allah to accept our du'aas?

Along with du'aa, we must try to leave the acts that may cause Allah's anger. As many mentioned in this thread, talking to a non-mahram is not allowed in Islam. You should cut contact with him until the actual nikaah is done. Engagement (or mungni) is not the same as nikaah and does not make your fiance (mungetar) halal for you. If you have already cut contact with him, then see what else you can improve in your life Islam wise. Are you covering yourself properly when you go out? Are you reading salaah on time? Things like that.

You should make du'aa as normal and then leave it all up to Allah. Sometimes a person likes something but Allah knows that thing is not good for that person. Whatever you are supposed to get in this world, you will get. And if you are not supposed to get something, no matter how much you try, you will not get it. In that case, you should just leave your trust to Allah and know that He has something better for you, if not in this world, then the next.

[taliburizarehman]

Assalamu Alaikum warahmatullahi t3ala wabarakatuhu,

Sister, ask ALLAH to solve your problems and do whats best for you.
Sister this is the month of Ramadhan! Every night and day of this month is so blessed, we cant even imagine! Take an
advantage of this month, and tell ALLAH everything! Even though he already knows, share all your worries with him,
and ask him for help, and watch your problems solve right in front of you in ways you wont even imagine, keep hope in ALLAH t3ala.
The last 10 nights are coming, dont waste your time in depression and crying, do loads of ibadah, make lots of dua, pray and ask ALLAH
:taalah: for his help, dont let this sacred nights just pass by, esa ho he nhe sakta ke aap ALLAH :taalah: se maangay aur wo apki dua ko
zaaya janay se, barkat waali raato ki qeemat ko janyi, aur unka faidah uthaiye, in raato mai tho kiya kiya nhe hosakta, aazma ke tho dekhyi,
humaray piyaaray rub ki meherbaaniya, maayoosi tho dhoor thak nhe chahni chahye...

Good you've cut contact from him, now keep it that way, let me tell you something sister, in this world if you want someones
attention, you can only get it by avoiding the person, if his family will want this to happen, they will come to you.
Also, most importantly it is haram to be in contact with him,until a proper nikah is done.

Do istikharah, We as humans, are weak ourselves, we cant solve our own problems, so instead of asking us for advice,
turn to ALLAH :taalah: ask him to guide you,do istikharah properly not once, twice or for just 7 days, but continue until
ALLAH :taalah: shows you the right decision, then comes mashwarah, and mashwarah is not done online, first ask your parents what
they think, then ulema.

Always ask for afiyah, Sister when your making dua, apni baat per israar nhe kijyi, bulke ALLAH se behtari maangyi,
Look, we are weak, and our knowledge is limited, we dont know whats better for us, you could be asking ALLAH for something,
and it could be very bad for you, ALLAH :taalah: states in the Quran Karim:
"3asa an tuhibbu shai'an w huwa sharrun lakun w 3asa an takrahu shai'an wa huwa khairun lakum" - you may like something but there is shar in it and you may hate something but Allah SWT has made in it kheir
And Allah SWT adds...."3asa an takrahu shai'an wa yaz3alluLLAHA fihi khairan kathira" - u may hate something but ALLAH has plentified that thing with khair

We humans fall in love with something, and then beg for it, without thinking, this love blinds our eyes, and sometimes the consequences
are bad, then we regret, so you have the time now sister, to make the proper decision, dont rush, and ask ALLAH t3ala to guide you towards
whats better for you, and if this isnt good for you, to direct your heart away from it, and if theres khair, then to open ways.
Who knows, ALLAH may have a much much better husband for you, so dont limit your options, and ask for whats best.

keep praying istikhara and do istighfaar alot and try avoiding sins (small and big) and do alot of ibadah and then leave the rest to ALLAH
If it does happen it is because its ur kheir, if it doesnt thank ALLAH that he removed shar from ur path.

Even the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, warned the muslims when they desired war with their enemies, he sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
told them to ask for afiyah. I advice you what our beloved prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam has adviced us.

Also, sister most times marrying someone without his/her familys happiness means trouble, if his family doesnt
want this marriage to happen, I dont think it is a good idea to go on with it, it can triple the problems after marriage,
but khair, Wallahu alam, his is the all-knowing, most wise, May he guide you to the right decision, and give you the perfect husband for you.