if husband cheats by showing fake divorce

[muslimah2]

i need sincere opinion n suggestion regarding this matter explained:

" i am second wife to my husband. i got married on condition if he has divorced first wife, if not, then its her right to be with him, so he should go and re-conciliate with her, but my husband said, no, its over between him and his ist wife. i asked about divorce paper for confirmation and he made a fake divorce paper with false name and said, she is divorced.

later i used to see some signs of her existence in his life in my dreams, so i started asking questions and inquired, he would daily get her calls and finally came to know that she was not divorced. but my husband said, he will neither divorce her nor will take her back as punishment and i should not worry.
but my mother in law who does not want me to live with my husband as he lives abroad and wants me to work for her and serve her, when my husband arranger my visa and took me along so my mother in law said to me, you have challenged me, now i will give you damage that you never imagined in ur life and said she would call her son, i.e. my husband's ist wife back to her son's life, and will send her abroad to live with my husband and would bring me back to serve and work for her.
therefore, my husband did exactly the same. he is going to his country with me, will leave me there, bring the ist ex- wife back to live with him.
please guide me. i am very much confused and scared. my mother in law can do anything with me, anything out of islam, my husband forces me to live with her while she has already thrown her elder brother's wife out because she also wanted to live with husband.

my husband and his family cheated me, lied to me and my family, and deceived me in the most possible way. i feel that i have been used by him and his family for their own gain and he is obedient in doing anything his parents say saying that he cannot leave his family for me but also love me.
but i think everything is fake about him and his family. my husband forces me to accept his ex-wife mentioning islam allowed 4 wives. but i say, i have been deceived. i never wanted to be in polygamy marriage, thats why i had asked for divorce confirmation, he lied for it with no intention of geting her back ever, and now he wants her back saying he doesnt like her and he never intended to get her back in life but he is helpless because of his parents. and the ex wife herself never wanted to come back either until she came to know about me.
so i am vs. my husband, his ex and his family. guide me in light of islam where does my husband, his family, his ex and i stand? AS ssooon as possible please.

[Jsmith]

You have been cheated, Allah (swt) will definitely compensate you and also greatly reward you if you will show patience and sacrifice.

Please read the story of Joseph (as) and his brothers and their father Jacob (as). How Allah (swt) rewarded Joseph (as)?

This is also a great opportunity for you to show trust in Allah (swt) as Jacob (as) and Joseph (as) showed trust in Allah (swt).

Other options are that you can get a divorce and search for another life partner, you have full right to go for this, but I am not in favor of this. I will like you reconcile your current husband and his mother and wife and leave the matter to Allah (swt), it will make Allah (swt) very happy and you will get a reward from His Majesty like Joseph (as) got.

Allah (swt) made Joseph (as) a King and all his evil brothers had to say that they were wrong doers.

[warea]

Get him arrested.

[Jsmith]

Get him arrested.

Well, you can get him arrested too as warea says,

But just think, how much you will get reward from Allah (swt) to get him arrested?

Joseph (as) could even kill his evil brothers if he wanted, but then Joseph (as) would get nothing from Allah (swt).

Prophet (sws) forgave his enemies on the conquest of Makkah and said. Today I forgive you just like Joseph (as) forgave his brothers.

Also, why Allah (swt) narrated the story of Joseph (as) and His brothers. This is a lesson for all believers.

Joseph (as) had to wait many years though to reach this great rank in character and personality. So following Joseph (as) or Prophet (sws) path is very difficult, but again the ranks will also be very great in Hereafter.

So, whatever you will decide, decide with respect to Hereafter gains not this Worldly gains, because your worldly life is just a blink of eye.

[warea]

Get him arrested and be safe before the mother in law gets more barbarian and does something criminal.

[AbuFatimah]

i need sincere opinion n suggestion regarding this matter explained:

" i am second wife to my husband. i got married on condition if he has divorced first wife, if not, then its her right to be with him, so he should go and re-conciliate with her, but my husband said, no, its over between him and his ist wife. i asked about divorce paper for confirmation and he made a fake divorce paper with false name and said, she is divorced.

later i used to see some signs of her existence in his life in my dreams, so i started asking questions and inquired, he would daily get her calls and finally came to know that she was not divorced. but my husband said, he will neither divorce her nor will take her back as punishment and i should not worry.
but my mother in law who does not want me to live with my husband as he lives abroad and wants me to work for her and serve her, when my husband arranger my visa and took me along so my mother in law said to me, you have challenged me, now i will give you damage that you never imagined in ur life and said she would call her son, i.e. my husband's ist wife back to her son's life, and will send her abroad to live with my husband and would bring me back to serve and work for her.
therefore, my husband did exactly the same. he is going to his country with me, will leave me there, bring the ist ex- wife back to live with him.
please guide me. i am very much confused and scared. my mother in law can do anything with me, anything out of islam, my husband forces me to live with her while she has already thrown her elder brother's wife out because she also wanted to live with husband.

my husband and his family cheated me, lied to me and my family, and deceived me in the most possible way. i feel that i have been used by him and his family for their own gain and he is obedient in doing anything his parents say saying that he cannot leave his family for me but also love me.
but i think everything is fake about him and his family. my husband forces me to accept his ex-wife mentioning islam allowed 4 wives. but i say, i have been deceived. i never wanted to be in polygamy marriage, thats why i had asked for divorce confirmation, he lied for it with no intention of geting her back ever, and now he wants her back saying he doesnt like her and he never intended to get her back in life but he is helpless because of his parents. and the ex wife herself never wanted to come back either until she came to know about me.
so i am vs. my husband, his ex and his family. guide me in light of islam where does my husband, his family, his ex and i stand? AS ssooon as possible please.

Allahu musta'aan sister, what a terrible mess muslims are in today. may Allah make things easy for you. when will muslims practice islam properly.

Dont become a slave to your mother in law and dont let your husband punish his wife, this is not from islam. either he stays married to her and fulfills his duties to her and provides for her, or he divorces her. he cant do what he's doing. what country are you from? do you have an islamic court system that will judge by shariah?

[AbuFatimah]

But just think, how much you will get reward from Allah (swt) to get him arrested?

the prophet SAW said he would even slice the hand off of his own daughter if she stole. if the guy is breaking the law he deserves punishment. there is no "reward" for putting up with abusive husbands and to suggest otherwise is harmful to islam and the ummah

[Jsmith]

Get him arrested and be safe before the mother in law gets more barbarian and does something criminal.

Yes, you can do this, I have no problem, you can go for it.

But it looks to me like USA attacking Iraq assuming the Iraq has Weapons of Mass Destruction.

Actually, Satan puts a fear of unknown in us and we get fearful and then we do such things like before a dog bites me, I should bite a dog. Before Iraq attacks on USA, USA should attack Iraq.

Allah (swt) says, Satan will definitely create a fear of the unknown things in you and prepare you to do immoral things.

Please read the following verse, Satan will ask you that you will have a miserable life but Allah (swt) calls you toward His bounty.

Satan threatens you with miserable life and orders you to immorality, while Allah promises you forgiveness from Him and bounty. And Allah is all-Encompassing and Knowing.

Quran 2:268

[warea]

Its not a doubtful fear brother. In South Asia, violence of mother in law is a reality and even hereditary. Based on that commonality of such problems (just as in the case of devilish acid attacks against women), greater precaution should be take when something like this level of threatening is come to be seen by a husband or mother in law.

[Jsmith]

the prophet SAW said he would even slice the hand off of his own daughter if she stole. if the guy is breaking the law he deserves punishment. there is no "reward" for putting up with abusive husbands and to suggest otherwise is harmful to islam and the ummah

Yes, her husband is criminal, he deserves punishment but she can also forgive him if she likes.

Do you think, forgiving someone is harmful to Islam and Ummah?